Advice on Boys!

My most recent video discusses the advice I have to give about boys and relationships. If you have any addition tips/advice please leave it in the comment section of the video. (Posted below) Scroll down and after you can read more about the tips I gave and the books I mentioned.

 

Tips on Boys

• Have Cross-sex Friendships: Having friends who are boys will give you the inside scoop on boys and could help you understand boy better. The more cross-sex friendships you have, the more experienced you on in knowing how they may think, feel and react to certain situations and topics
• Keeping these Cross-sex friendships can help you once you're in a relationship too. Just make sure your partner understands the friendships you have to avoid conflicts. You can have healthy non-romantic cross-sex friendships even when you're not single.

 

• Make Your Friendships Clear: Feelings can always change, but even then, you should let your male friend learn that you see them as just a friend. This can be done in a subtle way, "You're a good friend."

 

• Try to Understand their Point of View: Be open minded. Try to understand where they are coming from. Somethings you may have to agree to disagree. But still, try to understand where they are coming from.

 

• They Can't Read Your Mind: Express to your guy what your feelings are and want you need and why. Explain the 'why' part could help him better understand. Also, encourage him to also be open about his feelings. If he tells you about something he's feeling, try to be support and understand his situation.

 

• Be Honest When it's Appropriate: When your guy is helping you with something he may not meet your expectations. Understand when that isn't a big deal. Correcting what he did wrong or how he could do be will lower his confidence, making it less likely for him to want to do a task for you again.

 

• Encourage Good Behavior: Thank them for even the little things they do to help. (Ex: Getting a ride, Talking to you when you are sad) Tell them how happy this makes you.
• Give Space: Even if you live together, there is a way to give each other space. This is important because you do need some 'me time' and so does he.

• Make Time for Friends: Your friends are important, make time for them even though you may want to see your boyfriend non-stop. You don't want to lose friends, especially if you have boy problems down the road and may need their help later down the road.

 

• Argue Fairly: 
• No Name Calling
• Take a body break
• State your feelings and why, but also listen and keep an open mind about his reasoning.
• Understand what is worth staying angry about. Let it go and Breathe!